Helping The Control Freak Plan The Wedding
by Sher Matsen
My daughter and fiancé have
finally set the “big day” but now comes the fun part of
helping the control freak plan the wedding. The control
freak being my daughter.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m
really looking forward to helping my daughter and I’m accustomed
to her control freak nature. This could be a really fun
experience if you look at the right way. I’ll just sit back
and do what I’m told when I’m told.
If you’ve ever known a control
freak you’ll know what I’m talking about. These people simply
can’t give up control of any aspect of their lives. They
must always be in control, so the title “control freak”
is rightfully earned.
Now helping a control freak
plan a wedding, can you imagine, after all everything is
going to have to be perfectly controlled. Anything gone
wrong is liable to land in quite a burst of verbal displeasure.
Now as the helper you have
some choices. You can either step back and find the situation
quite amusing and thus keep your sanity. Or you can get
drug into the chaos and panic and loose your sanity. I’m
opting for the amusing approach.
Watching a control freak plan
their wedding is rather like watching a juggler with about
12 extra balls. Your just waiting for one to drop! And eventually
one will and all you can do is be their to pick up the pieces.
It all began with choosing
the “perfect date.” Now a sane person would wonder what
does a perfect date look like, but a control freak spends
hours going through each month and each date listing the
pros and cons until they are satisfied they have found the
perfect date.
God help us all if the weather
decides to not co-operate. But that’s okay after a few stressful
day my control freak daughter has decided that August 16th
2006 will be a perfect day.
To the sane person it will
be a perfect day no matter what goes wrong, but to my control
freak daughter all I can hope is that the day is truly perfect
in every way!
Well our next mission was the
gown and if you have never shopped with a control freak
you will not understand how amusing this can be. At least
from the view point I’ve chosen to take.
Grant it some moments are enough
to make your hair stand up and shout “Stop you’re driving
me crazy.” A couple of deep breaths and the amusement returns.
A normal soul will know that
there is no such thing as the perfect wedding dress or the
perfectly fitted wedding dress right off the rack. Yes a
wedding dress can become perfect but it may take some alterations.
Shopping for that wedding gown
with a control freak leads to comments such as the sleeves
are too puffy, the train slides just a little to the right,
the v neck is ½” from perfect, the …..Well you get the picture.
They are looking for perfect by definition in their brain.
Many of the gowns my daughter
tried on were perfect as far as I could tell. She looked
beautiful, breathtaking, and sexy all the things a bride
should be. But to her it was not “perfect.”
As luck would have it one bridal
show as she shifted through the gowns this beautiful dress
jumped out at her. When she tried it on it fit her perfectly
and not only by my definition but by her own.
Not an alteration needed, not
a tuck, not a hem. It was infact perfect. So you see even
the control freak can find a perfect gown.
Our last adventure was in locating
the perfect place for a reception. My control freak daughter
has yet to find the place that makes her feel safe and in
control.
Thankfully she still has time
and as luck goes I’m certain we will find that perfect place.
I’m sure they’ll be plenty more highlights before she has
her wedding planned.
The message here is not to
make fun or chastise the control freak, after all we all
have our faults, but rather to point out that no matter
how stressed you become while planning your wedding it will
all come together. Besides I believe every future bride
turns into a control freak to some degree when planning
their wedding.
Sher Matsen from Estate Jewelry
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